The rest is still unwritten …
Sometimes I wish I had the right words to say to each and every broken person I come across; to heal every person out there so full of sadness; to just fix everyone.
-Anne Frank (b. June 12, 1929)
Letter to creatives.
Currently i am watching a show called Saubhagyavati Bhav. I mailed the following letter to the creatives of the show.
' You don’t know me.
I know I am probably just one of the X amount of viewers watching your show. But I know about the subject you are trying to bring out into the open here. I have lived through it.
There are various things that can change the direction of someone’s life, graduating, getting married, having a child, losing a parent, getting divorced and so many more things. I have done all those things. I got married at the age of 20 to a man I had known for 3 years. My husband was not a very good husband but I was young and did not want to be alone so I stayed. In fact I stayed for 8 years before I just could not work to hold onto my broken marriage any longer.
The first sign of the physical abuse started not with hitting but pushing and grabbing. First came the apologies “I am so sorry I did not mean to grab you so hard but if you had only listened or did something right the first time we would have not had to go through that fight.” As time went on the abuse got worse and happened at a faster pace. He started punching and kicking, and the cutting. Fortunately most of it I’ve blanked out but what I remember has left deep scars. When he beat on me it would be hours, shoving me against walls, twisting my fingers and banging my head against things; and then he’d get aroused.
This is also why I don’t feel the protagonist of your show should be shown going back to the person who abused her. It would make me feel like I should go back to that hell. It would make the women in the shelter I was in, who are like sisters to me now feel like they should go back to that hell.
I tell my story not for sympathy but to point out that you never know what the one thing in your life is going to be that suddenly changes you and everything you believe. If someone had told me I would let myself be hurt in this manner I would have laughed in his or her face. I did find out that I am stronger than I thought. That is why I tell my story, because I am no longer ashamed. If one person believes they can find a way out because they have heard my story or the story of the female protagonist of your show, and then it is worth all the pain to relive it and try to make you realize what it is that you are dealing with here.
I did survive, and in the words of my friend Rhea, I now thrive. I don’t consider myself a victim, I’m a survivor and you can make that change too. And I want others to know they can too.
But you don’t know me.
I know I am probably just one of the X amount of viewers watching your show.
~ Additi. “